- Start by learning how to observe what your mind is telling you. You’ll start to notice the difference between what your mind is telling you, what is real, what’s important and what’s irrelevant. You’ll also notice that your mind does not shut up. And that the more distress you’re under, the louder it gets, the harder it is to quiet the mind.
- Name your thoughts as “The story I am telling myself is….” or “I notice that my mind is telling me…”
- Let the thoughts exist in your mind and accept that it is okay to be there for the moment, that your thoughts don’t define you or your outcome, and importantly, that you don’t always have control over what your mind is telling you. See the thoughts for what they are, be willing to allow, create space and then reconnect with your body.
- While we may feel inclined to try and fix our mindset with positive thoughts, that can be like trying to put a fire out with more fire or trying to fix the problem with the problem. Instead, let your body speak to your mind. A good exercise is 10 deep diaphragmatic breaths (in through the nose, out the mouth slow, controlled, and lengthy, pause, and repeat).
- Take a few moments to come back to your senses. With your eyes closed, notice what you can hear, and then open your eyes and notice what you can see.
- You can also do this with emotions. Name the emotion you’re experiencing, see if you can locate it in your body, visualise the feeling, breathe into it, make room for it, remind yourself that the emotion is allowed to be there. This type of emotional acceptance is aimed to help athletes become less afraid of their own emotions which can be game changing, especially when those emotions are quite big and distracting (i.e., fear).
In this sense, you are using the body-mind pathways to communicate with your brain that you’re actually all good and in control. This can open areas of the brain that have become impaired under stress, making it easier for you to refocus on what’s important and be present with the task at hand. This is where we find our flow!